Advice for Children
Talking to children about death requires sensitivity and guidance to help them understand and process their emotions in a supportive manner. Here are some helpful tips and resources to assist you in navigating this challenging conversation:
Honesty and Age-Appropriate Communication
When discussing death with children, honesty is key. Use language that is appropriate for their age and developmental stage, avoiding euphemisms. Provide clear explanations that they can comprehend and encourage them to express their feelings through drawing or journaling in a private space.
Creating a Safe Space for Expression
Establish a safe environment where children feel comfortable sharing their emotions about death. Encourage them to ask questions and express their thoughts openly. Let them know that all feelings, whether sadness, anger, or confusion, are normal and understandable.
Listening and Validating Feelings
Listen attentively to what children have to say about death and validate their emotions. Reassure them that it's okay to feel sad or upset, and avoid dismissing their feelings. Assure them that their emotions are valid and that you are there to support them.
Providing Reassurance and Support
Offer reassurance that they are loved and cared for, and that they are not alone in their grief. Provide comfort and support, and encourage them to seek help from trusted adults if needed. Let them know that grief is a process that takes time, and it's okay to feel differently from one day to the next.
Using Books and Resources:
Utilise age-appropriate books and resources to help children understand and cope with death. Reading together or watching videos can stimulate conversations and offer comfort during this difficult time. Exploring these resources together can aid in understanding and expressing emotions.
Seeking Professional Support
If children are struggling to cope with grief or if you find it challenging to discuss death with them, consider seeking support from a professional counsellor or therapist. Several organisations in the UK specialise in supporting families and children dealing with loss, offering counselling services and tailored support groups.
In the UK, valuable organisations providing support include:
Child Bereavement UK
Offers counselling services, support groups, and resources for families and children coping with loss.
Winston's Wish
Provides practical support and guidance to children, young people, and families facing bereavement.
Cruse Bereavement Care
Offers counselling and support groups for individuals who have experienced the loss of a loved one.
Samaritans
Provides emotional support through a confidential helpline available 24/7.
Seeking Help and Guidance
Remember, seeking help and guidance is a sign of strength. By providing children with honest information, emotional support, and access to resources, you can help them navigate grief and loss with resilience and understanding.